Intimacy - Crucible of Transformation
Ironically, one of the most popular memes regarding love has been incorrectly attributed to Rumi:
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all of the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”
In fact, this comes from the spiritual text, A Course in Miracles. Regardless of its source, however, it’s a profound statement and, based on its popularity, clearly one that speaks to a great many people. There’s a sense of wisdom and truth in the words that sounds just like something Rumi might have said.
Once we get beyond our intuitive recognition that there’s truth in the words, however, we realise that what they’re actually saying is extremely challenging. Simply put, being able to share in a healthy intimate relationship begins with me and my willingness to do the necessary inner work – to identify and face up to whatever blocks inhibit my ability to either give or receive love.
The question, of course, is how? We all know that relationships are seldom simple. Fortunately, when it comes to love, sex and intimacy, there are many wise teachers and a great many tools, and for those of us with the desire and the willingness to use these resources, there exists the possibility of real transformation in how we experience our intimate relationships.
“Intimate relationship could be called the ashram of the twenty-first century – a place especially ripe with transformational possibility, a combination crucible and sanctuary for the deepest sort of healing and awakening, through which the full integration of our physical, mental, emotional, psychological and spiritual dimensions is more than possible.”